A client was in today for some energy work. We were planning on doing unwinding, meditation, and whatever else came to mind.
My client needed to do an unwinding, but she said that she could not seem to get out of her head to do so. Also, she was feeling angry at a lot of things. So this is what came into my head...
Now, the point of unwinding is to let your body move to where it needs to be to release energy that you no longer need, energy from memories, incidents, etc. The problem is when you think, “Maybe I’ll move here, or do this” that you are no longer feeling it, but thinking it.
My client would constantly be thinking. She has been living for a while in her head. The problem with this is one then doesn’t feel in their heart. But in her case, this is a reaction to always feeling with her heart, and not using her head. And doing this has caused her to be hurt a lot. So, she stopped what went into her heart, and does nothing but think. The problems involved with that make it just as bad. For one, you become cold-hearted. For the other you spend all your time weighing odds and percentages, looking at bad situations (and you may be doing this unconsciously, most likely under your conscious train of thought).
One needs balance. The heart is where our desires and feelings live. If we lead with our heart, we make ourselves open and vulnerable. We get hurt easily. We’ve all heard the saying about wearing your heart on your sleeve. (I seem to have been accused of this a time or two, or three, or four hundred.) One can’t live in one place or the other completely. It is like a seesaw. One side up or down just does not work. It has to be level. One has to let the heart tell what it wants, but temper that with the head. We have to let the both feel, but they have to work in concert, in balance.
She was also dealing with anger issues. She gets angry, but later tells herself that it was stupid doing so. And then she buries that anger inside. The problem with that is that eventually, that anger will build until it explodes. It becomes like a pressure cooker. But also like a pressure cooker, one needs to let some of the pressure off now and then by opening the valve to bleed off that pressure a little at a time.
What I ended up doing was taking her through an unwinding, but I started her with the motions I was making until she started moving on her own. I also had her start counting in her head. By counting, it put her mind on a path that did not involve what she was doing or anything in her life. It left her to just move.
That played out a bit, but she kept going back into her head. So I took another path. I pushed her at what she was going through. I was trying to get her angry, angry enough to lash out. (I have had times when people would beat on the floor, scream or swing about as that was what they needed to release. At the same time, I was also aware that this person had received training in the military and I might be making myself a target.) It worked to some extent. But she still did not let go as much as I hoped. But I got her to the edge. That was a lot.
After that, I took her through a meditation to open communication between her heart and head. I also had her looking at ways to release anger without doing something she would regret. Most of what I said was put there for me to say. I trust in this.
Afterward, she told me that I was helping her more than I realized, and I suspect this is true. I see some progress, and sometimes feel that I wish we had made more. But it does take time to process what happens here, and I don’t see that as much as my client does.
But today was a good day. I did some real life coaching, and it had a deep effect. Cool.